From the PITT Substack:
Last night a good friend told me she was looking for a job in another city. My immediate reaction was, “Don’t Move.” I quickly recovered and agreed that the new job was a good idea, she should go, and I wanted the best for her. This was also true. I have selfish reasons for wanting her to stay, but I love her enough to want the best for her.
I have had a lot of losses in the past three years. My ex-husband cut off contact when he remarried. A year later I told my younger son that men cannot become women and that the medical treatments he is seeking are dangerous. He stopped answering my calls and texts. A year later his brother cut off contact in solidarity. Two months ago, I lost my closest friend to a fast-moving cancer.
This morning I “wept a little weep.” I am so tired of losing people! I thought about getting my sons back. All I would have to do is text them and agree to go along with their demands. But I would be doing so for selfish reasons. I will not lie to my younger son, because I love him enough to want the best for him.
You have shown strength that maybe one day your sons will grow up enough to appreciate. They are making their own great mistakes and I hope their childish stubbornness will not last forever. The problem is theirs.