This substack is full of stories of the pain “trans” causes parents. Stories of the pain of watching children make choices that will hurt them, descriptions of the pain of losing a child who goes “no contact.” This article is about the pain trans ideology causes to people beyond the families, people they may not even know.
People are beginning to see that the “trans” phenomenon is not kind. We saw that when the male boxers in the Olympics were punching women. Sometimes women and girls see it when a creepy man comes into the women’s restroom. We can’t see the women incarcerated with men. Those women suffer while shut away from the world with no escape.
Medical transition is not just doctors and drug companies being unkind to patients. Removing healthy breasts because of a “feeling” is unkind to cancer patients who have lost breasts. What does elective genital removal surgery say to a man who lost his penis when he stepped on a landmine or to a woman who was subjected to genital mutilation against her will? What does the elective removal of a healthy, functioning body part say to any person who had to have a limb amputated?
Thankfully most people do not know about a condition called interstitial cystitis. It inflames the lining of the bladder and causes the sufferer to feel like they have a painful UTI all the time. My mother suffered from it for over a year. At the time there was no cure. The suicide rate for these people was higher than the suicide rate among cancer patients. We know that vaginoplasty results in numerous UTI’s. The rate of UTIs is as high as 67%. Women have a 50% rate of urinary problems after genital surgery. Many of these patients have numerous UTI’s. The constant use of antibiotics to treat these UTI’s breeds antibiotic resistant bacteria. This increases the risk of having a long lasting or even incurable UTI for everyone. That is very unkind.
Whether it is puberty blockers, hormones, or antibiotics, all these drugs end up in our water supplies.
Think also of the people who suffer from MS or do not have healthy hearts and bones. Is it kind to voluntarily increase your chances of suffering these conditions because of a feeling?
Trans surgeries tie up operating rooms causing other people’s surgeries to be delayed. When the government pays for these procedures, it increases the national debt, and when insurance pays everyone’s rates increase.
I feel the greatest unkindness comes from those who promote the idea that attempting to change one’s sex is the only possible course of action for their suffering. Activists, therapist and doctors who will not first consider treating underlying mental health issues are being unkind, as is anyone who does not abide by “do no harm” and who fails to encourage using non-medical therapies for a person’s discomfort over drugs and surgeries.
Sometimes the kindest thing is to say “no” to a person who wants something that is not good for them.
